"Sole" mates

Lately I have been on a search for some incredible new shoes. I have a certain style, color and look in mind, it is indescribable however once I find them I will know ...it's a feeling.

All of this "sole" searching got me doing some "soul" searching of my own and reminded me of one of my favorite episodes of "Sex and the city" : Carrie is out shopping with Samantha and walks by a store with a fabulous pair of Manolo Blahniks in the window and says in a sultry voice "Hello Lover".

"Sole" and "Soul" mates what if anything do they have in common?

Take looking for the perfect sole, the shoes that catch your eye due to their color, their unique style, the pair that you must have. They fit you to a "T". When you put those shoes on any outfit you wear with them fades in the background because they ARE the outfit. Cost is not an issue because you must have them. They complete your look.

It may appear that we tend to shop for our soul mate in a similar manner, you look for the one that catches your eye due their unique personality, the way that they smile, their captivating personality, the way they make you feel when you are with them. To paraphrase a friend, you want to feel fireworks when you are with this person.

Both sole/soul (s) evoke emotions. They can make you feel sexy, savvy, smart, classy etc..

But as time goes on soles get old, they lose some of their unique style, they may fall out of fashion, they just don't seem to fit as well and they don't create the same excitement they once did. So we move them to the back of the closet and or replace them with something new. And the cycle of "sole" searching goes on once again.

The other day as I was cleaning out one of my many shoe filled closets, I came across a barely worn pair of great looking shoes. Still very stylish even though I had purchased them a year ago. I had planned on giving them away to charity but took a second look at them and decided they were just what I was looking for. My sole mate.

Maybe every now and then we need to take a look at our "soles" for a common denominator. That denominator may be the key.

Could it be that what we have been looking for has been there all along? And if so why do we keep looking for a new pair?